It is said that trust can not be rebuilt or repaired. I have been in such a situation and it actually appears impossible, especially if the offence is one that the other partner terms as great.
Trust is a firm belief of reliability you place on another person. It helps you become confident and safe both emotionally and physically around anyone you've finally gotten to trust. There are only a few kinds of relationships that can stand without trust.
In most cases, trust has been likened to a glass because of it's somewhat irredeemable nature, maybe it is because of the effort required to build it or our emotional view of its fragility. Trust is actually not a glass and can definitely be rebuilt.
Rebuilding broken trust especially when it concerns serious issues like infidelity and chronic lies has always been a tedious task, most people would prefer to back off any relationship that trust had been severed than try to build it back. This is because it involves a lot of serious work, commitment, communication, openness and patience. Not everyone has such patience. But if both parties think that the relationship is very valuable to them and are ready to put in the effort,then they can rebuild trust.
Although trying to rebuild trust in any relationship is difficult, if both partners put in the work and it eventually comes off successful, there is bound to greater love, transparency and togetherness in such relationships that the normal relationships everyone seems to have nowadays.
The first thing that is needed to build back trust in a relationship is the willingness for both parties to resolve the issue and work things out together. The other things will include:
Forgiveness : If you think that what your partner did is unforgivable, there is no need to try. The ability to forgive wholeheartedly is the start of rebuilding the trust.
Transparency: it is necessary that both parties be transparent, especially the offending party, as not being transparent would still affect the relationship in the long run.
Understanding and Empathy: Trying to understand the root of the problem and providing solutions to it will help in rebuilding trust. Also putting yourself in the virtual shoe of the other person and trying to understand the situation will help you keep an open mind and avoid finger pointing.
Showing love and remorse: People tend to forget about love when they are faced with trust issues in relationships. It is necessary to continually show the other party how much you love them. It is also vital that the offending party show a serious level of remorse and commitment that they would not allow the cause of the lack of trust to happen again. We all need reassurance. It is just human nature.
Uprooting the cause and Avoid placing blames: If both sides are able to know the cause of the problem, it is necessary to use every means available to cut it off, this is in order to avoid a another occurrence. You should also try not to trade blames as these will bring up feelings of guilt and would undermine the purpose of what you are trying to build.
The whole process takes time, commitment and patience. But it is worth the effort. After all this, it is necessary to press a restart button. You can do this by asking your partner out again or proposing again. Funny right? But this brings in a sense of a new relationship, with all old and bad stuff thrown out the window. You can try it.
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